Worth & Destiny Blog

You Call This Your Best?

In a time when we feel like we are being judged on any and everything we do, say, think and believe, it can easily feel like we are not hitting the mark.

Do any of these sound familiar?

  • Not working hard enough
  • House not clean enough
  • Butt not round enough or boobs sagging too much
  • Teeth not white enough
  • Not exercising enough or not healthy enough
  • Over parenting or not parenting enough
  • Not attentive enough to your spouse/partner
  • Not at church enough
  • Not praying enough
  • Not serving on enough committees
  • Girl, You, Doing, Too, Much

In “The Four Agreements: A Toltec Wisdom Book” by Don Miguel Ruiz, the fourth agreement is: always do your best. Ruiz says, “Under any circumstance, always do you best, no more and no less. But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good…Your best will also change over time.”

My best is different when I’m on my period and when I’m not; when I’m well rested and when I’m not; when I’m confident and when I’m not; when I’m overwhelmed and when I’m not. The list goes on and on.

How would we feel if we leaned into this and extended more grace to ourselves? And how would things shift if you changed your expectations of yourself and others to do more than 100%?

I remember when I was in school, my father would say, “Sweetheart, as long as you do your best, that’s all that matters.” If only I would have really allowed his truth to be my standard, I would have spared myself from the woes of being a perfectionist and from expecting the same from others!

Understanding this idea is powerful and it frees us up to move with more ease not being under the weight of judgment and displaced dissatisfaction with ourselves. Can you begin to sense the potential positive impact on your entire being by living this agreement?

Now that’s some powerful self-care right there!

 So next time you question your best, you know what to do right? Is this something you could adopt as part of your self-care mindset? Send me a message and let me know.

Peace & wellness,


 “Be strengthened. Be healed. Be empowered.” ~ Alessandra Poroj